better sleep = better you = better relationships

better sleep = better you = better relationships

More and more I'm hearing that people aren't sleeping well. Clients, friends, and family are all having trouble. 

 

When you don't get good sleep it makes you grumpy, it compromises your immune system, it makes you gain weight, it inhibits you from effectively managing your emotions, and it negatively impacts your relationships. 

How to Preserve Your Marriage- Before You Even Start Dating

How to Preserve Your Marriage- Before You Even Start Dating

There is a lot that goes into preserving your marriage, but the one thing that I've seen destroy marriages over and over again is dishonesty.

Dishonesty is a marriage killer.

The ability and willingness to be honest with your spouse does more prevention than it ever gets credit for.

So what can you as a single person do to help yourself be honest when you don't even have a partner yet?

When to break up with your therapist (and the secret phrase you need to do it!)

When to break up with your therapist (and the secret phrase you need to do it!)

A friend recently asked me how to know if she should break up with her therapist. 

 

Apparently, if you don't go to graduate school for counseling/marriage and family therapy/social work, this isn't something that you've probably learned in your life! 

 

It can be hard to find the right person to help you with your struggles.

 

Not every counselor is going to be a good fit with every person. 

When Friends Become Romantic

When Friends Become Romantic

There is a beauty that has been lost in our culture today. The beauty of small town friends who grow into loving each other is much rarer than in days past. We have gained the endless options of mates to be found on match.com, eharmony, bumble, tinder, christian mingle. This makes us think that somehow, people are better. There has to be a better option.

I'm taking a break from dating!

I'm taking a break from dating!

I hear this all the time. "I am so over the dating scene. I'm taking a break from dating!" 

Then, a week later, you're back on Eharmony, Christian Mingle, Match, Plenty of Fish, or whatever Christian dating site you're currently using. It's like an addiction.  It may make you feel better that you're taking yourself out of the game for a minute or two. If you need a breather, that's fine! But if you want to have a little more purpose with your break, keep reading. 

4 questions to ask yourself before moving forward in a relationship

4 questions to ask yourself before moving forward in a relationship

You've been talking to this girl for awhile now. She seems to like you a lot. You definitely like her and you want to move forward, but how the do you know when it is time to move forward? 

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself before moving forward in a dating relationship:

Why Relationships Fail

Why Relationships Fail

I'm not going to give you some cliché answer that your friend might give you post-break-up. I won't say that he wasn't good enough for you, or he sucks or he doesn't even know what he's walking away from. Those are fine things for your friend to say if they are true. It's awesome to have great friends who give you encouragement in that crappy moment.

But, I'm not your friend so I'm going to give you something better. A takeaway for your next relationship to end differently- or not at all. 

A Glimpse into Rory Gilmore's First Session

Spoiler Alert: This blog contains references to the most recent release of GG- A year in the life. 

I've been a Gilmore Girls fan forever. It's only natural I should kick off my blog with these ladies.

In "A year in the Life" Rory was not living the life that she knew she should. She couldn't remember to break up with Pete, or Paul, or whatever that guy's name was. She barely remembered she was dating him. She was cheating on him. She treated him awfully. And that's not Rory. It wasn't who she wanted to be and it wasn't right. 

There are ways to date well and ways to really screw it up.